Choose a job you love and will never work a day in your life- Confucius.
Working at a regular job can suck sometimes. It could be worst if you start hating it.
Have you ever had a new job? You feel excited for the first few days, weeks, or maybe a month, and then the excitement fades, and boredom takes its place.
Are you currently working a 9 to 5 job? You like the paycheck, but deep inside, you dread coming back every morning. Maybe you even lose your sleep at night, wondering what you should do with your life!
You talked with some friends about this problem; they seem to have similar issues and no solutions.
You did a Google search and read some books. You devise a solution: I have to find my passion, you tell yourself! Excellent, now you have some hope!
After trying a couple of new things, nothing worked. Back to square one.
If this partially describes you:
STOP!
Stop looking for your passion and follow these guidelines instead!
1. Be Honest With Yourself
Honesty is the first chapter in the book of wisdom.”- Thomas Jefferson
People want to make things look good. They put on a front to make others build a false image about them; they fake it. They even deny admitting what’s going wrong in their lives for themselves.
Tom Bilyeu said. “ Do the hard things. But check yourself. See where you’re really at. In suffering, you will meet yourself. Don’t avoid it. Learn from it.”
Don’t be afraid to admit things to yourself. If you don’t like something say it, scream out loud: “This sucks.”
Be honest with yourself. You don’t need to continue pleasing people who don’t necessarily care about your well-being and happiness. You don’t need to have it all figured out.
Make a list of people, places, and activities that drain you of energy and a list of what adds energy to your life.
Learn to say “No.” Accept that certain things aren’t good for you and work on letting them go! Remove them from your life.
Be honest with yourself; nobody is watching you!
2. Change The Meaning
“You cannot serve two masters, therefore to take your attention from one state of consciousness and place it upon another is to die to one and live to the other.”- Neville Goddard
You can’t find a passion, while your state of Being is the opposite.
If you have been working on a job you hate for a long time, your state of Being is hate. Most of your thoughts, feelings, words, and actions indicate “hate.”
You can’t go to passion from there. You can’t grow a new plant in a garden full of cobwebs, or it won’t be easy, and the plant won’t flourish!
Wayne Dyer Said, “ When we change, the things we look at change.”
Finding passion requires exploring new things, experimenting, and being open to considering activities outside of your standard set of skillsets and old habits.
You have to be in a state of openness, neutrality, and peace before going for it.
One way to shift your state of being around your job is by changing its meaning. You have to look inside you for a compelling reason that could change your thoughts and feelings about your job.
For example, Instead of starting the day with the thought, “I hate my job, I don’t want to go,” you can use the thought, “ I’m grateful for this job, as it helps me with my finances at the moment.”
Change the meaning behind your job as you have 100% control over it.
3. Do things “Passionately”
“Stop looking for your passion, and do things passionately.”- Ayub Youssef
You can’t find what you are looking for if you are looking at the wrong places.
You are looking for passion outside of you. You are waiting to connect to a task or an activity that will bring you passion.
Imagine skiing is an activity that brings you passion. On the one hand, when we look at skiing itself, it’s almost a dead thing. It’s not alive, it doesn’t talk, it doesn’t experience emotions, and it never changes its mood. On the other hand, you do experience emotions, you are alive, and you have the ability to shift your mood.
Waiting for something outside you to bring passion to your life is passive.
Stop looking for your passion and do things passionately. Bring your passion to anything you do. Own the process! You are the one who’s able to bring passion and not the other way around. You are not a victim!
With this mindset, you automatically won’t allow anything less than a passion for being in your life.
You are life! You add your touch to things; you are passionate; you are “passion”! Anything less than that doesn’t have a spot in your schedule.
4. Do What’s Needed
“We have a strategic plan. It’s called doing things.”- Herb Kelleher
You find your passion by doing. You find your passion by experimenting and making mistakes. Don’t let not finding your passion yet stop you from taking action. Get moving!
Not finding your passion isn’t an excuse for not doing what’s needed. Sometimes, you have to do what you don’t like to do to get to where you want to be.
I visited my village of birth in June after ten years. I found my childhood friends and some who used to be kids as grown-up men now. I had a conversation with an unemployed friend. I suggested he get a Security Guard License because he had considerable morphology. He was Big and robust!
He refused because he didn’t want it, and they won’t pay him a good salary. He’s better off living with his parents and staying broke.
Don’t be this guy!
Finding passion is also a gradual process. It’s okay to start by doing things you don’t necessarily prefer, to create the freedom you dream about daily!
Be honest, change the meaning, be passionate and get things done.
Suppose you want to design a passionate life or create a business around your passion. Let’s have a conversation here.